Let's face it, you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you just might find, you get what you need. Mick Jagger had it right- life is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes, things just don't go as planned. And rest assuredly, it won't be the last time. The thing is, it's perfectly OK; it's all a part of a much bigger picture.
Try as we may however, we have a tough time accepting this reality, in particular when we are at the root of it. I figure we have two choices: 1) accept it and move on or 2) get our gut all twisted in knots and let it create a more significant impact than it's worth. If you happen to be one of those who falls into the glass half full camp, read on. If you are one of the others, read on anyway. You are the ones that inspired me to write this.
Why does it matter?
That part is pretty easy. Nobody wants to fail. It just doesn't feel good. Even if we do accept it, we still feel some remorse, some sense of disappointment. So, it matters because it does. Now that we have that out of the way…
Whether we choose the first or second option above, we still need to finish what we started. That is of course unless it really didn't matter in the first place; in that case, option 2 is the only one that makes any sense.
So, we need to finish what we started and that takes effort. If we assume we have a finite quantity of effort in us, where do you suppose it is best spent? With a boat load of wasted angst or directed at the completion of the task? OK then…
That which does not kill me…
If at this point a stomach in knots still seems like the best course, consider the value of failure. There is no getting around it- we all will experience failures, whether of our own making or of someone or something else. Failure is good for us- it strengthens our resolve, inspires humility, emboldens us and facilitates access to something uniquely human- possibility.
You can't always get what you want. Are you really going to let that stop you?