I Can't Go Faster Than the Car In Front of Me

Forgive me, but I happen to be one of those courteous drivers. The closer you get to my rear bumper the more likely we are to meet under less than pleasant circumstances (and I don't mean I am going to go after you). Besides how can you expect me to go faster than the car ahead of me?


 

Have you ever noticed that in business some people have that same sense of urgency? They're in a hurry to get something done and they're too impatient to recognize that others in front of them (upon whom they depend to achieve your goals) are not moving as fast as themselves? What do they have to gain from pushing others along? Everyone has an agenda- is one persons agenda more important than another? 

Sure, there are those instances where someone else has agreed to support you and for whatever reason they are not living up to their side of the deal. Other than that, it's important to have realistic expectations. It's like the impatient driver on the road- go around if you must or just accept the fact that the world does not revolve around you. 

And keep this in mind… The only way you are going to push me is to push me away! Is that what you really wanted to do?

14 responses on “I Can't Go Faster Than the Car In Front of Me

  1. Oreste P. D'Arconte says:

    Letting everyone proceed at their own pace is fine — unless you're in a deadline-driven business like mine. Better to keep the machinery well-oiled and everybody on the same page.

  2. Liz says:

    This is so true! It goes along with a mantra you hear often these days- be in the moment. Sometimes it is so hard to do!

  3. Chris Bond says:

    Right on the money! I'll admit to tailgaiting in life and in work, and this post has helped me see the light. Thank you!

  4. Shaun Scovil says:

    I always laugh at people who freak out in traffic and drive like children with overactive bladders, stuck in line for the potty.
    Personally, I'm always busy and everything is urgent. But the nice thing about that: When *everything* is urgent, _nothing_ is.
    So when I'm stuck in traffic, I respond to emails. (Not the best advice I've ever given, for sure!)

  5. Ed….your driving analogy reminds me of the article, "A Human Moment," by Dr. Hallowell. He equates the use of e-mail to road rage. In essence, we say and do things that we wouldn't do when we are in front of other people. We've made it too easy for some who are not willing to be accountable for their actions to hide behind excuses. A question? Have you ever met a veterinarian that saved a dog from eating all that homework?

  6. Ed Drozda says:

    As I see it Shaun, the key here is to recognize that it is your own sense of urgency. The question is do you feel the need to impose that upon others or expect others to share it?

  7. Colby Butler says:

    I believe it is human nature to act with a sense of urgency in search and in hope of immediate results, successes or accomplishments.
    However, with everything in life, when we move too quickly we lose rhythm. Details are overlooked, timing is wrong, and communication mediums become ineffective, etc. I believe a sound rhythm incorporates fine planning and execution, but most importantly the ability to slow the "game" down.
    Whether it is sports, music or business, we all can develop the skill and ability to cognitively breakdown and analyze a fast pace world with consistent rhythm. I believe this begins by using empathetic listening, which is the ability to genuinely understand the needs, challenges and schedule an individual or company is operating under. It is only when we are able to clear ourselves from our own agenda that we can provide tangible value.

  8. Ed Drozda says:

    I agree with you Colby- about human nature, the consequences of our behavior and ways in which we can manage it. But you know what really makes me wonder? It's the extent to which I have seen this sense of urgency escalate. In my 57 years in this world the speed and recklessness (OK reckless sometimes) of people has increased exponentially. Usually when things continue at such a pace they ultimately burn out or self-correct. What lies in store for us?

  9. Ed Drozda says:

    Have you ever met a veterinarian that saved a dog from eating all that homework?
    Norm, call me slow but say what?

  10. Ed Drozda says:

    Ah so that was you back there eh? Well I am happy to hear that my comment was illuminating. Now, please turn down your bright lights Chris.

  11. Ed Drozda says:

    Absolutely Rusty; there are times for everything. When the agenda requires the input of many to achieve the goals- everyone has to be on the same page.
    On the other hand when someone inserts their agenda into someone else's business…

  12. Great post Ed! Truly made me reflect on my own actions at work. I live in a constant state of urgency and often get frustrated when others don't work at my pace. This made me realize that they may have their own urgencies to handle. Either way, I'll try harder now to not travel so close to the car ahead! Lots to think about!

  13. Ed Drozda says:

    As they say Kaitlyn, we are not alone. Watch that car ahead and choose your course (or is it lane) wisely.

  14. Tim Hayes says:

    Hi Ed,
    You hit the nail on the head when you said that there must be realistic expectations.
    Both parties must discuss and agree upon the level, frequency and speed of the support. Without a clear and mutual agreement the situation you describe can occur.
    Without having a clear and mutual agreement no one side can claim dissapointment since there's really no performance objective to measure it by.

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